Heartbreak! Divorce filings rise 40 percent around Valentine’s Day: study

Valentine’s Day may be an occasion for sweethearts to exchange gifts, but it has increasingly become a time for divorce, according to a new study.

Data compiled by Avvo.com, a site that offers free ratings and profiles for lawyers and licensed MDs, found that divorce filings skyrocket about 40 percent this time of year.

“Over the past two years we’ve seen an average increase of 40 percent in the number of requests for divorce lawyers around Valentine’s Day, compared to the previous six months,” said Mark Britton, founder and CEO of Avvo.

“Furthermore, the number of questions about divorce has soared 36 percent during that same time. Indeed, there’s definitely a major Valentine’s spike when it comes to divorce.”

Kelly Chang, a Los Angeles-based divorce lawyer said she has seen an increase in divorce filings shortly after Valentine’s Day.

“This can be attributed to two major groups of people: the ‘Delayed New Year’s Resoluters’ who are merely moving forward on their resolution to be single, just a month late, and the ‘Waiting to Exhalers,’ who, depending on the actions of their spouses on Valentine’s Day, will either reconcile or file for divorce,” she said.

New Jersey lawyer Cary Cheifetz agreed, saying, “We see a definite spike in divorce cases around Valentine’s Day. I see it as a combination of cabin fever, people waiting until after the holidays and most importantly, people waiting until they know what their spouse’s bonus and income situation will be in the New Year.”

https://nypost.com/2011/02/09/heartbreak-divorce-filings-rise-40-percent-around-valentines-day-study/

 

 

What will be the status of money earned from the buying & selling of Valentine’s Day items?

QUESTION:

Please advise me with regards to the buying and selling of Valentine’s Day items, what will be the status of the money earned from such trade?

ANSWER:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

The inception and history of Valentine’s Day is vague and clouded by various fanciful legends.

However, there is reference of Valentines having its roots in Christianity and celebrating the anniversary of Valentine, the priest.

Today, Valentine is known to be a day of love and romance and more so a commercially driven holiday. Valentine promotes promiscuity and immoral behavior which is in clear opposition to the teachings of Islam. Allah Ta’ala says,

وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا {32}

“Abstain totally from zina (fornication), for it is immoral and an evil way.” (Quran 17:32)

As Muslims, we should completely disassociate ourselves from such un-Islamic events and holidays – whether it be directly participating in its activities or helping promote the holiday by purchasing items with symbols of the occasion.

The purchasing and selling of items with symbols of such holidays should not be viewed independently.

Items sold in relation to Valentine’s Day may be classified in three categories;

1) Those that do not have any relation to Valentine. However, the store marks the prices down due to the holiday season. The purchase and sale of such items will be permissible.

2) Those items which are exclusive to Valentine’s Day, for example, Valentine’s Day cards. The purchase and sale of such items will be impermissible.

3) Those items which are generally permissible to buy and sell, such as chocolates and flowers, but they have symbols of Valentine.

It is Makrooh (resented) to purchase and sell such items.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best.

Checked & Approved by,

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

Valentines Day is definitely not for YOU!!!

Roses are Red, Violets are Blue

…Valentines Day is definitely not for YOU!!!

“And whoever seeks a religion[a way of life] other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers” [Quran-Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told us that groups of his ummah would follow the enemies of Allah in some of their rituals and customs. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, span by span, cubit by cubit, until even if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would follow them.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah(pbuh), (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else? !” (Hadith-al-Bukhaari )

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” (narrated by Ahmad)

History: Who was Valentine? Why is this day observed?

Valentine’s Day began as a pagan ritual started by Romans in the 4th century BCE to celebrate “Feast of the Wolf” on February 15, also known as the Feast of Lupercalius to honor the god Lupercus.The main attraction of this ritual was a lottery held to distribute young women to young men for “entertainment & pleasure”-until the next year’s lottery. Christianity tried, without success, to stop the evil celebration of Lupercalia. The only success it had was in changing the name from Lupercalia to St. Valentine’s Day. It was done in CE 496 by Pope Gelasius, in honor of some Saint Valentine. There are as many as 50 different Valentines in Christian legends.

How can anyone in the Ummah really enjoy this Haraam Occasion when there is so much brutality and suffering going on in the world today. The rivers of blood flow freely from the veins of our brothers and sisters from across the Muslim world. Celebrating unislamic occassions like Valentines Day , New year, Christmas and shouting the names of musical heroes and watching Bollywood & Hollywood Movies drown out the screams coming from the dungeons of Uzbekistan where brothers and sisters are boiled alive in vats of water. How many will take out valuable time and spend it for the upliftment of Islam? How many will sacrifice for our kin in Gaza , Kashmir, Afghanistan, Chechnya, Palestine, and Iraq? There are many more killing fields as well across the Asian and Arab world. Will you climb on theatre chairs and express your rage over Guantanamo Bay and other gulags where our brothers and sisters are being tortured, raped, sodomized, beaten, and burned? Or will you just switch off and enjoy with the Kuffar in celebrating this evil custom?

Oh,Muslims,wake up! The Ummah is not bleeding; it is haemorrhaging.

Anas Bin Malik (ra) said; “When the Messenger of Allah Muhammad(pbuh) came to Medina, the people had two holidays from the days of Jahiliyyah(ignorance). He (pbuh) said, “When I came to you, you had two holidays you used to celebrate in jahiliyyah. Allah has replaced them for you with better days, the day of Fitr and the day of slaughter (Adha).”

VALENTINES DAY IS AN UNILSAMIC CUSTOM THAT HAS NO BASIS IN ISLAM AND IS PRESENTLY BEING PROMOTED BY CAPITALIST FOR COMMERCIAL REASONS.…Listen to the pain of your global family! The enemies of Allah are destroying Islam and we are following in their footsteps!
Be pro active and DO NOT- ENGAGE, SUPPORT OR ENCOURAGE THIS EVIL….!!!

If you were intending to engage in this haraam practice and Now changed your mind, then do a noble deed by donating the money to an ISLAMIC CHARITABLE CAUSE which will make you the BELOVED of ALLAH and will earn you an immense reward in the everlasting life of the hereafter!

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Valentine’s -True Love or Commercial Gimmick?

14th February is popularly known as ‘Valentine’s Day‘. Adolescent girls and boys express their love for each other by exchanging flowers and gifts as a token of love on this day.

Most of the times, these adolescents indulge in immoral acts under the pretext of ‘Valentine’s Day’. Does real love require this superficial display and can it be confined to just one day? ‘Valentine’s Day’ is responsible for the propagation of western culture and incitement of youth towards unrestrained behaviour. It is the western custom to put parents in old age homes and then celebrate flashy Mother’s Day and Father’s Day love which is put on display for just one day

The malls have been painted red. Roadside stalls have blossomed overnight bearing roses, and fluffy teddy bears that whisper soothing poetry to passers by. “Come on buy me, I need a special home and I cost a fortune.” This is Valentines days! Is this day a total gimmick, farce or just another way to smooch your cash away for that someone special and leave you with sweet nothing?

Today we are blindly following the western culture under the name of ‘Valentines Day’. The young students of schools and colleges are falling prey to such culture and express their love to each other by way of exchanging greeting cards. But actually speaking it is not love but a mere attraction to the opposite sex at a tender and immature age.

There are varying opinions as to the origin of Valentine’s Day. Some experts state that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer’s daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it “From Your Valentine”. Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.

So…Valentine was Roman who refused to give up Christianity and some say that he was even a priest! Now the question is, why do Muslims celebrate this day, when it is totally contradictory to the teachings of the most perfect and beautiful and complete religion in the universe, Islam?

It boils down to societies norms and the digression from being on the straight narrow to a watered down version of Islam where the belief is that it’s acceptable to profess ones love on this Christian custom that has evolved not from past Muslim generations, but what the eyes perceive to be acceptable within society. In other words, celebrate the day or be a cast out…

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) told us that groups of his ummah would follow the enemies of Allah in some of their rituals and customs, as it says in the hadeeth of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him), who narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, span by span, cubit by cubit, until even if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would follow them.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?”

Because Valentine’s Day goes back to Roman times, not Islamic times, this means that it is something which belongs exclusively to the Christians, not to Islam, and the Muslims have no share and no part in it. If every nation has its own festivals, as the Prophet (SAW) said – “Every nation has its Eid” (narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim) – then this means that every nation should be distinguished by its festivals. If the Christians have a festival and the Jews have a festival, which belongs exclusively to them, then no Muslim should join in with them, just as he does not share their religion or their direction of prayer.

Some people may wonder, and say, you mean to deprive us of love, but in this day and age we express our feelings and emotions – what is so wrong with that? There is plenty wrong…

• There is no scientific or cultural basis to celebrating this day.

• Valentine the ‘saint’ himself was involved in the anti-national acts during his time, then how one can get any benefit by celebrating this day in his name?

• On this day young girls and boys come together at pubs, sea shores, hotels, colleges etc. and indulge in indecent acts. A common person finds it difficult to even go around such places at this time. Some organisations organize such programs where the young boys and girls can stay together.

• The young students of schools and colleges are falling prey to this alien cultural influence and express their ‘love’ for each other by way of exchanging greeting cards. In reality what they experience at this tender and immature age is not love but a mere superficial attraction to the opposite sex.

• Psychiatrists can site several cases of people who have ‘proposed’ on ‘Valentine’s day’ due to various shades of mental turmoil. Women who have been duped or lured by them and have married them have had to suffer great mental and physical torture.

• This practice is damaging as it results in a long lasting negative effect on any youth’s career and also on society. The seeds of immorality which are planted on this day, later cause the destabilization of society through a general fall in morality.

• We can recognize a direct attack from an enemy outside but this cultural invasion is insidious and very difficult to recognize and so it is difficult to defend ourselves from its evil results.

• Cultural derailment always results in society heading towards destruction.

• Many western countries do not celebrate this day. The Calendar of Roman Catholic Saints’ was prepared in 1969; ‘Valentine’s Day’ was omitted from the general Roman calendar. If this is so, then why should we honour this day in our Islam?

• Western culture provides for placing parents in ‘old age homes’ and then superficially celebrates Mother’s Day’ and Father’s Day’ for just one day! Can real love be limited to just a day?

Love in Islam is more general and more comprehensive; it is not restricted only to one kind of love, that between a man and a woman. There are many more kinds of love. There is the love of Allah, love of His Messenger (SAW) and his companions (may Allah be pleased with them), love for good and righteous people, love and support for Islam, love of martyrdom for the sake of Allah. There are many kinds of love. It is a dangerous mistake to restrict this broad meaning to this one kind of love.

Expression of feelings and emotions is not a justification for the Muslim to allocate a day for celebration based on his own thoughts and ideas, and to call it a festival, or make it like a festival or Eid. So how about when it is one of the festivals of the kuffaar? In Islam, a husband loves his wife throughout the year, and he expresses that love towards her with gifts, in verse and in prose, in letters and in other ways, throughout the years – not just on one day of the year.

There is no religion which encourages its followers to love and care for one another more than Islam does. This applies at all times and in all circumstances, not just on one particular day. Indeed, Islam encourages us to express our emotions and love at all times, as the Prophet (PBUH) said: “If a man loves his brother, let him tell him that he loves him.” (narrated by Abu Dawood, 5124; al-Tirmidhi, 2329; it is saheeh). And he said: “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you truly believe, and you will not truly believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell you of something that, if you do it, you will love one another? Spread (the greeting of) salaam amongst yourselves.” (Narrated by Muslim, 54)

Statistics indicate that Valentine’s Day is second only to Christmas in popularity. So it is clear that the Feast of Love is one of the festivals of the Christians and that it is second only to the festival of Christmas, the celebration of the birth of the Messiah. So it is not permissible for Muslims to join in the celebrations of this date, because we are commanded to differ from them in their religion, customs and other things that belong exclusively to them, as is stated in the Qur’an and Sunnah and scholarly consensus.

We ask Allah to protect Muslims from the harm of temptations and from the evil of their own selves and the plots of their enemies, for He is the All-hearing Who answers prayers. May Allah send blessings upon His slave and Messenger Muhammad (PBUH), and upon all his family and companions.

ST. VALENTINE’S DAY-THE DAY OF ZINA

“ST. VALENTINE’S DAY” —
THE DAY OF ZINA
OF ALL THE kuffaar days of festival and money-making such as Christmas day, mother’s day, father’s day, ghost’s day, shaitaan’s day, etc., the worst and most immoral is the festival day called St. Valentine’s Day. It is the most immoral occasion because it is a festival of zina (fornication) from beginning to end – in idea, words and actions. The very conception of this occasion is deification and idolization of zina.
In addition to this accursed festival of zina being an act of fisq and fujoor, it is an act of kufr. Believing haraam to be halaal is kufr which eliminates Imaan. The basis and the edifice of this immoral kuffaar festival day which has been given greater impetus by its commercialisation, are the promotion of zina of the heart, zina of the mind, zina of the tongue, zina of the eyes, zina of the hands, zina of the legs and even the ultimate act of actual fornication/adultery.
The most lamentable development of this festival of zina in regard to Muslims is the degree of Muslim indulgence in it. Muslims flagrantly participate in the zina acts and paraphernalia of this satanic festival as if it is a ‘blessed’ occasion permitted by Islam. The wide-scale participation in this day of zina has so thoroughly desensitised the Imaani conscience of Muslims that even the learned ones who are supposed to guide the community have grown accustomed to it. Parents observe and allow their children at secular schools to totally immerse themselves in the satanic aura and effects of the zina culture of this particular day of fornication.
It is indeed lamentable in this era to explain to Muslims, in an attempt to make them understand that Islam does not permit zina in any form whatsoever. Many Muslims who have completely lost their Imaani bearings regard this day of zina to be a day of ‘innocent’ and light-hearted ‘fun’. Zina has now become acceptable to numerous Muslims. While modernist Muslims still have some, not much, inhibition for the actual act of zina (fornication / adultery), they have no qualms and no reservations about the multitude of introductory stepping stones which lead to zina proper. Yet the Qur’aan Majeed prohibits, not only zina but all acts leading to zina. Thus the Qur’aan Shareef warns: “Do not approach zina”. The approaches of zina which are all haraam, are all such acts which have the potential of inciting sexual passion. Thus, intermingling of sexes, speaking to the opposite sex, looking at the opposite sex, solitude with the opposite sex, saying even Assalamu Alaikum to the opposite sex, thinking or fantasizing of the opposite sex, lustful communication with the opposite sex, be it by letter, phone, etc., and every act which incites sexual passion and inclines one to the opposite sex are all described as the ‘approaches of zina’ which the Qur’aan declares haraam. In fact a woman applying perfume and passing in proximity of males is termed an adulteress in the Hadith. Similarly, a man who intentionally derives sexual pleasure from the putrid zina ‘fragrance’ of a perfumed woman passing by him commits zina of the nose and of the heart..
Despite all strictures of the Shariah on every shadow of zina, it has become difficult for even supposedly practising Muslims to understand the villainy, immorality and zina of the shaitaani St. Valentine’s Day.
The satanic zina cards and other trimmings and trappings associated with this day of fornication on which large sums of money are squandered down the drain are the prime approach to the avenue zina on this haraam immoral festival day. The occasion is utilized to foster zina relationships. People – Muslims – are becoming increasingly brazen and flagrant in their exhibition of acts of zina. Added to the indulgence in zina of a variety of kinds, is the added hurmat (prohibition) of Tashabbuh Bil Kuffaar (Emulating the Kuffaar). This factor by itself prohibits participation in this evil occasion. Even if it be assumed that the occasion is devoid of zina. It is haraam to imitate the festivals and superfluous acts, practices and customs of the kuffaar. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Whoever emulates a people, he is of them.”
The contact with the opposite sex becomes more brazen on this shaitaani day. In fact, there is no tinge of conscience; no vestige of fear for Allah Ta’ala and no regard whatsoever for Islamic norm and culture to deter the fussaaq perpetrators of acts of zina on this day of zina.
Even an ignorant Muslims needs no Qur’aanic aayat nor any hadith to understand the immorality of the zina day called St. Valentine’s Day. There cannot be a Muslim – one who has even a flickering of Imaan in his/her heart – who fail to understand the prohibition and immorality of this immoral kuffaar festival. But desensitization of Imaan and total abandonment of the whole Hijaab culture of Islam have eliminated every inhibition, hence the brazen and shameless indulgence in the zina activities of this evil festival.
When the moral condition of Muslims degenerate to such an evil ebb that vice and immorality – fisq, fujoor and zina – are flagrantly committed and even regarded as being acceptable, it reveals the signs of the impending universal (aam) punishment of Allah Ta’ala. The silent Ulama who condone with their silence and misunderstood hikmat (wisdom), all the acts of fisq and fujoor which have become rife in the community, should reflect of the Qur’aanic warning:
“Beware of a fitnah (punishment) which will not overtake only the transgressors”.

SELLING FLOWERS
QUESTION
I am a florist. Is it permissible to take orders for weddings, parties, anniversaries, valentine’s day, funerals, etc.?
ANSWER
Selling flowers is permissible just as it is permissible to sell grapes, cloth, sugar, knives and numerous other items which are used for halaal as well as sinful and haraam activities. If the only use of an item is in sin, vice and evil, then it will be haraam to sell such an item even if the intention of the buyer is unknown and even if the buyer does not state the reason for buying. For example, televisions. Since pictures of animate objects is inseparable from television, dealing in it is haraam. On the other hand, the functioning of a radio is not dependent on pictures. It can be used for lawful and unlawful purposes. Thus to sell radios is permissible. The sin of misuse is on the buyer.
If it is known that the product will be used for haraam activity, then it will be haraam to sell it even if it is a halaal item, e.g. grapes. It is not permissible to sell grapes to a winery. It is not permissible for a farmer to even grow grapes to supply a winery. But if a manufacturer of wine comes to a Muslim’s market and buys all his grapes, then it will be permissible for the Muslim to sell him the grapes because he had no intention to sell grapes for making wine and also he did not expect the winery to buy his grapes. But to take an order from a winery for grapes, is not permissible. The buyer who buys grapes at the market from the general stock, in this case, is just as all usual clients are, who walk into the shop and buy.
These same principles govern the selling of flowers. If anyone comes into your shop and buys flowers for whatever purpose, it is permissible to sell to him/her. But it will not be permissible to take an order for making flower arrangements for specific haraam purposes. It is sinful to aid and abet in sin. The Qur’aan Majeed forbids this. Thus Allah Ta’ala states: “Do not aid one another in sin and transgression.”
On the basis of the aforegoing rules of the Shariah, the ruling for the specific acts mentioned by you are as follows:
(1) If a Muslim places an order for flower arrangement for a wedding in a hall or at any place where un-Islamic activities such as intermingling of sexes will take place, then it will not be permissible for you to take such an order. But if the same Muslim steps into your shop and selects flowers from your general stock, it will be permissible to sell to him/her. But it is not permissible to take an order for this specific purpose. If a non-Muslim orders flowers for a wedding, it will be permissible to take his/her order. Non-Muslims are not bound by the laws of the Shariah.
(2) If Muslims buy flowers for Eid occasions, it will be permissible to sell to them. But it is not permissible to take orders for making any specific flower arrangement because there is no flower-custom in Islam for Eid. But they may come and buy flowers. It is permissible to adorn one’s home with flowers.
(3) It is permissible to sell flowers and make flower-arrangements only for non-Muslims for their occasions of mother’s day, etc. But it is not permissible to do so for Muslims. But if a Muslim steps into your shop and buys flowers from your general stock for mother’s day, then he/she is guilty of the sin of misuse, not you.
(4) It is not permissible to take orders specifically for valentine’s day, whether the clients are Muslims or non-Muslim since this is a day of zina.
(5) Flower orders may be taken from only non-Muslims for birthdays and parties, not from Muslims.
(6) Flower orders for anniversaries and funerals may be taken from only non-Muslims, not from Muslims. It is bid’ah for Muslims to place flowers on the quboor.
(7) Flower orders may be taken from both Muslims and non-Muslims for occasions of illness and hospitals. Since the aim is to cheer up the patients, this is permissible.
(8) Flower orders may be taken if the customer does not specify the reason. He/she simply orders flowers and does not state the purpose. It is then permissible.